Fact: God gave me the option of my husband. God doesn’t give out husbands and wives. He presents options.

In Genesis. Verse 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

This tells me God showed Adam something He thought Adam would like. And of course, as we know it, Adam did take delight in her. Adam chose her. No where do we hear God say, “Here is your wife son that I have chosen for you.” But we do hear is Adam speak up for her. He said, “This is mines.”

Why is this important to understand? Well many of us are getting divorced and we are blaming it on our lack of understanding of God and His ways. Too often our excuse is, “I should’ve never married them because God didn’t give them to me.” “He isn’t what God chose for me.” “I chose her by mistake because God didn’t tell me to marry her.” Well I hate to bust any bubbles with this message but God doesn’t make us do nothing!

GOD DOES NOT EVEN MAKE US CHOOSE HIM!

Don’t get me wrong. God’s desire is for us to follow Him. But He doesn’t make us. God didn’t design robots when He formed Adam. He designed a human that has the ability to think and to choose. God wants us to choose Him, but He will NOT force the relationship.

So if God doesn’t force us into a relationship with Him, why is it that we assume He is forcing people to marry specific individuals? He is not. I believe He presents a viable candidate that He believes you will like and can work with.

It is up to us to choose and to WORK to keep choosing that person. You have to choose and work on a daily basis. When you cheat, the enemy presents a threat, and we choose to act on that opportunity. Just like we can’t blame the devil for presenting a bad situation; we can’t blame that God for not presenting.

We are given the ability to choose and make decisions. We have the option of working or not working within our marriages. Most of the time, we are lazy and soft. I’ve said this many times, we don’t know how to fight! Situations present themselves and we fold. We fold. We give in. We give up.

Hell I’ve wanted to give up. It’s easy to give up and not try. But I choose the hard route and stay. This shit ain’t easy. Trust. We have to choose and work daily.

Choose. Choose your spouse today. Work. Give it your all. Don’t give up until you know you have given your 110%. If you are at 70%, keep choosing and keep working.

Thank you for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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