I’m not a betting woman but I’d bet on Him all day. When God confirms, you can rest in knowing that He’ll come through. It’s His guarantee to us all. And when you know that, you know that you KNOW…then and only then do you experience peace. Peace in knowing that everything will be alright.

If you have read my book, “I’ll Fight for My Man,” (my marriage memoir) you know that it was this confirmation that allowed me to know without a reasonable doubt that my marriage was mine, designed for me, and it was okay for me to fight for it. When I was questioning rather to stay or leave, His confirmation of us worshipping as a family allowed me to know that I hadn’t gotten what He promised me. Yet.

Long story short, for those that don’t know, James and I grew up in church but totally different denominations. And this backdrop was always present in our marriage no matter how much fun either of us had together, no matter that we had kids, our house and bills, etc. Our religious preferences or protocol was a thorn in the side of our marriage. But God….

After praying and pleading for this to change in our marriage, God sent His confirmation to me that we would indeed worship as a family under one templed roof together. His confirmation reached me by, not one, but two ministers that did not know us or our situation, all in one day. Believe it or not, but the late Bishop Rance Allen was one of those individuals.

Through them, He gave me a promise. And that gave me peace within our home. Sunday after Sunday, we continued to visit our individual churches of choice. Yet I was comforted because I knew what He had told me through His people. It didn’t happen overnight. But as described in the book, once we reached the lowest point in our marriage, I was able to reach back to that promise and make the best decision of my life. As a result, I stayed in my marriage.

Here we are in 2021 and my same husband (LOL) and I have decided to build a home together. We thought we’d build in 2-3 years, but with the current market where we live along with interest rates, we came to this decision much sooner than we’d expected. But I was reminded that we shouldn’t approach this decision alone. So I invited the Lord in on our conversations.

To build a home can be nerve wrecking, however, for us it has started off quite well. But this is where I knew we had His support. To reserve a lot, you have to render a lot deposit that is only good for 2 weeks. You have 2 weeks to decide on a home design and to make all modifications. Once the home design has been agreed upon, at the end of the 2 weeks, we are expected to sign a contract and provide earnest money. A pretty hefty earnest money check actually. Money that we did NOT have access to. No lie…

If you’ve ever made a large purchase, you may feel me on this. There are several options available to us in moments like this. And the one option, I had never considered was explained to us and it was a no brainer. We would apply for a HELOC (Home Equity Line of Credit) on our current home. From our understanding, it would take 2 weeks to be finalized with funds in hand. Ok cool. So about 2 days before putting a lot deposit down, we applied for the HELOC. It would be a close call, but we were confident that we’d make the deadlines.

Well guess what actually happened? The HELOC took longer than expected. It actually took 4 weeks. And due to unforeseen events, can you guess how long it took for our house design to be completed? Ha! That same 4 weeks!!! We signed our contract on this past Monday and the money was available that Friday before!!!! How about that???

Throughout this whole process, I was seeing or noticing things just happening that could’ve been negatively received; however, it all seemed to work in our favor. THANK YOU LORD! So even though our deadlines were NOT met, it all was working out, it all worked out, and it shall be done.

So now I’m talking to me. For the next few months, there will be plenty of hiccups and moments of vulnerability. But I will rest in His Word. I will remember His promise. And I won’t give up or give in.

Thanks for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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