Trust I know how you feel. Marriage is soo hard. Working with difficult people is just as hard. The issue is that they don’t even know how difficult they can be and the crazy part is that if you tell them, they won’t believe you, they will be in denial, and they will ignore your advice.

Crazy huh. But I know how this can be. We have to work 8-10 hours a day with someone that thinks the world revolves around them. When you try to talk to them about their bad attitude, they get defensive so you just keep it to yourself, most of the time.

Then you have to come home and deal with your spouse. If it’s not the husband with his shoes all over the house, who forgot to make up the bed, garbage overflowing, while he is now chillin with the remote in his hands while the kids wait for you to arrive and cook dinner.

If it’s not him, then it’s the wife that has arrived and immediately removed all of her clothes and makeup and maybe her hair. Now she is walking around frowning and fussing about the house not being clean, while complaining about everyone at work, and taking all of her frustrations out on everyone in her path. The goldfish isn’t even safe.

Phone rings and it’s the in-laws. You don’t want to answer because they just get on your nerves with all of their comments about what you should or shouldn’t be doing. And if it’s not the in-laws, it’s your parents doing the same or doing the mostest with their questions and expectations.

Then there are your siblings that need to grown the duck up. Always leaning on you for help. They need help with the kids, help with the bills, help, help, help. But who is there to help you?

Didn’t I say I know your pain. Not that I’ve experienced it all but I’ve heard it all. People are just something else. I’m like you. I see the changes that each of them needs to make in order to become a better person. Like you, I can teach them. If they only listen to us, we can change their lives for the better. But they don’t want to listen.

Want to know how to change them once and for all? Want to get them to understand their ways and actually want to change themselves without all the fussing and fighting? I’m so for real! I have the solution for you and it will change your life once you start incorporating it. We can even bet on it!

Want to change your co-workers or boss, spouse, your in-laws, parents, and/or siblings? I have the secret to changing them without appearing as nagging (women) or a complainer (men). Want to know the secret?

CHANGE YOURSELF!

In each of these individual relationships, you are 50% of it. Want it to improve by 50%? You improve it!

Issues at work? You have the power to change up to 50% of your work experience.

Not so good marriage? Improve it! The biggest waste of effort in any marriage is trying to change a spouse. The problems you have with your spouse are more than likely issues you have with yourself.

In-laws or parents difficult to deal with? You have the power to improve it by a whole 50%!!! It’s been terrible for years! Well in THIS year, make a pledge to see a 50% improvement. You haven’t seen any improvements in years, so yes that 50% is a lot!!!

For example, you want to lose 40lbs. Will you be mad about only losing 20? Nope! 20 is better than nothing! 50% change is better than nothing!!!

Stop focusing on ALL the things the next person should be doing! Stop trying to convince them to change. Want to see them operate with their best selves?

Be the example!

Thanks for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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