Otherwise continue to feel slated. Continue to feel disregarded, disrespected, talked about, mishandled, used, and abused. People will not care about you and your feelings just because you are a man, a woman, tall, blessed with muscles, your position, your title, or your good looks.

This will be a real talk type of blog. I’m an overall ball of positivity. I love life and have learned to live it. As a result, I go unbothered about a lot of things. Took me awhile to master this but I’ve gotten pretty darn good with not allowing people to dictate my feelings.

I’ve learned what it takes to make me happy. And I know how to regulate or renew my mindset when I’m not having a good day. Controlling ones emotions can prove difficult but can be done with overall awareness of self.

Ever been provoked to the point of violence? Maybe that is too extreme. Ever been pushed or ticked off to the point of cursing someone out? Sure! All of us have. Well the best thing you can do, drum roll please, is to NOT curse them. I’m so serious.

Don’t curse them! Don’t give them a piece of your mind! Instead give them your whole mind! Hand them the whole entire mind which it is intelligent, compassionate, logical, embracing, theoretical, calculating, expressive, courageous, and catch this…it’s mind-boggling. Yes, the mind is all that. It knows way more than those selective choice words.

Don’t just give them the negative emotional facets without giving them the positive transmitters. The brain is too complicated for you to result to just one side of it. Share it’s remarkable capabilities. Share it all.

As a result, it tells the person on the receiving end, “I’m too gifted to fall for that. I have better control of my emotions to not allow you to dictate my actions.” And guess what else. When you can speak intelligently about your emotions and feelings and express it in a way that the other person can reluctantly receive, this will allow them to see you as a real person that they should listen to. And depending on how you articulate your words, it also expresses to them that fear has no place within you. Fear is the place where bullies gain wings and fly.

We have to teach people how to treat us. So fear has no room in our mental houses. Get your emotions under control and let people know you will not stand for their mess (their BS). Fix your eyes to their eyes, straighten up your back, square your feet, control your voice volume and speed, and say what you mean and mean what you say.

To do this know what you will absolutely not put up with from anyone. This is a short list ok. You can’t go to war over everything so know when to fight. For me that is disrespect. I will not entertain disrespect from anyone. Period. But when disrespected I don’t start screaming to the top of my lungs, my response is calculated. Trust.

When I’m done with you…the whole thing is done. Meaning you know exactly what I meant and you won’t do that again. Trust. And I’m back to my state of mind before the incident happened. Meaning I don’t hold grudges. I’m adult enough to tell you how you will handle me and sane enough to act as if the incident never happened. We friends again. We cool now. Life goes on…

Teaching involves first studying the material. Until you engage in self-awareness and learn about self, you may never know how your actions are being read. Nor will you know how to express them back. Take time to get to know your self and practice ways to express yourself outside of your default mechanism.

It won’t happened overnight but in due time, you will become this person that is able to stand up for self by teaching others how you like to be treated and over time, they will catch on to the message and take heed to your requests.

Thanks you for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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