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I’m partial to older folks. Give me someone 20-30 years older than me and you have given me a good time. No pun intended young people. But there is just something about someone with experience and wisdom. Wait. Let me correct that. There is just something about someone with wisdom and experience FREE enough and willing to share. Ain’t nothing like it.

There is this one lady by the name of Wanda Nall I call my bestie. Ms Wanda (this is what I call her) is over 70 years old. She is actually 72 but for the folks that read this blog in the following years, she is older than 70 and I absolutely LOVE her. Do you hear me? Love her. Ms. Wanda and I have a good time chatting about any and everything. We talk about anything, laugh about everything, and at the end of the day; I know she sends up regular prays that ascend the rooftops. Can’t nobody tell me she doesn’t have a direct line to Jesus. And one thing is for sure, she has my back.

Ok so this blog isn’t about Ms. Wanda but it is about older couples, some may actually know her or came up with her. Well seeing that James and I have a marriage ministry that isn’t necessary tied to a church. You can call it what you want. It could just be a marriage message or focus but at the end of the day, it was definitely a calling. I didn’t think this up and decided it would be a fun thing to do. It was and is a divine assignment that has James and I constantly saying YES to because it is definitely not an easy one. Will talk more on that at another time.

So having this ministry has allowed us to be invited to speak, host, or just gather with other married couples. And since I love me some older people; oftentimes, we find ourselves congregating at events or gatherings with older couples. Contrary to what one may believe, we actually always enjoy ourselves. Even though they have kids our ages or even older; they are just like us. No lie.

They are FUN-KNEE!

This is what we learn when we are in the company of older couples:

1. Their 40 years of marriage looks very similar to that of 20 years and even 10 years.
2. They still have PETTY arguments. And sometimes in our presence.
3. They still talk about their kids. And the kids still bad. LOL
4. They still have some of our same struggles with trying to find time to spend quality time together.
5. They still go on dates (i.e. dinner, movie, etc) and group dates.
6. Men still quiet. Women still ‘got something to say.’ I put that in quotes because that is what this one wife said several times. She was complaining how when she has something to say that her husband just sits there and doesn’t talk back. She is over 50 and I’m just under 40 and I’ve been complaining about the same thing with my husband.
7. Men and women have different languages. Period.
8. And believe this or not yall…but yo mamas and daddys still having sex! YEP.
9. AND-da they still fighting about that sex too. If yo daddy ain’t getting enough, he is still fighting with your mama about it.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news or maybe disgusting news to anyone that just got a visual. Hahahaaa yes sir! Yes ma’am. Your folks still screwing and guess what. They talking about it. Ain’t no drought going on over there either. Hahahahhaa

This revelation has ROCKed my whole existence. I just knew that when I decided to retire from work that sort of meant I was at an age to retire from it ALL to include sex. Apparently. I. Am. Wrong. All the way wrong too. Sigh.

So you mean to tell me, I gotta be setting this thing out and throwing this thing back for the next 30 plus years???  Help. Me.

Well this morning I woke up to a great radio message from our friends: Candace and Remon Tuck out of Fort Worth, TX. They are marriage gurus that host a marriage radio broadcast that is EVERYTHING. And this morning, their episode was about sex and they had a sex expert on the show by the name of Candy. All I know is this, Candy shared some nuggets that I plan to work on. I just love when experts provide books for my reading pleasure. The book she referenced was “Tickle His Pickle.” Yaaaasssss. I plan to grab that in case you were remotely wondering.

If you were like me thinking there was an implied day that his sex drive would be gone, think again. So for now ladies, we might as well put some more tools in our tool belt and enjoy the ride. And next time you are in the presence of an older person, don’t pity them for their age. Get to know them. You never know. Maybe that can be your next friend or confidant.

Thanks for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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