Confused? Don’t be. Yes, my overall purpose of this blog site is to motivate people to be themselves without competing with others by only focusing on self through self confidence, self development and self awareness. Yet here I’m saying you shouldn’t compete with yourself. Let me explain.

Your biggest enemy is none other than YOU. With haters all around us doing their jobs quite well, you still touch down at home and continue where the hater left off. Don’t believe me?

The hater says you can’t do that and so do you. The hater asks why are you working on that degree because it won’t amount to anything. It’s just a waste of time and money. When you are alone, you begin to question yourself as well. Hater says you are ugly, fat, and mean. You say the same.

Let me apologize in advance that this message will feel like it’s an attack because all you will ‘hear’ is you, you, you. You did this and you did that. Know that this is intentional. Break over.

Maybe your naysayer is a family member. For years they’ve had direct access to your ears and have created this picture that shows you as weak, gullible, dumb, and unworthy. And you believed them. Even now, you believe them after all these years. Well how does that mean you compete with yourself. Well it’s done through this harsh reality of insecurities.

Insecurities that have been built over time. That false picture of you has distorted your true view of yourself. Hence this grown person capable of making all decisions pertaining to their life yet full of insecurities. Insecure in your own true power and true abilities. You can’t do or be who you want or think you are because you don’t believe you can. The first step in getting rid of these insecurities is to figure out the shame that is surrounding them and face them head on. Shame hinders you through secrecy. Hiding that you are hurting on the inside. Hiding that you need help…out of shame.

I personally learned this through the book I recently published. Once I finished writing my memoir full of my failures and issues within my marriage (my book info is on Home page if you are interested), I became stricken with fear of releasing it because I was afraid of what people would say, think of me, and the attacks that would come from haters of our deliverance that has allowed my family grow together. A friend mentioned that once the curtain has been pulled back, the enemy can’t attack you there anymore. So once you speak to that thing that has you bound out loud, it no longer has power over you.

That’s how competition arises. It’s all internal. You are constantly fighting your own thoughts, your own believe patterns that have been formed of you over the years through others, fighting your abilities, fighting who you think you are, fighting who people perceive you to be, and fighting this false notion of what you should’ve accomplished by now. Quick silly example, who set this milestone of being married by age 30? Exactly! Many women are living by this and rushing into marriages based off of this society driven timeline.

It all starts in your mind. As the old adage says, rather you think you can or can’t, either way you are right. Too often we create these mini battles in our minds. 30, 40, 50 years old fighting a battle that was started at age 10 through the words of someone that you probably don’t even talk to anymore. Probably haven’t seen in years. Or probably have learned who that real person is. For instance, as a child, we often believe what adults tell us about ourselves but as we mature, we learn and experience who that person really is. Yet we hold on to things that person may have said about us for life as if it was gospel.

Want to make that change? Change it! Want to think differently? Train your thoughts through the renewing of your mind. Want to become who you believe in your heart is your true self? Do it! Take the first step! Don’t worry about the process, sweat, and tears of building this new castle.

Just lay the first brick. Tomorrow lay another one. Brick by brick. Day by day. Pray. He is rooting for you. He wants you to be successful. Keep going. Don’t stop. You got this. Lay another brick. Take another step.

Thank you for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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