I’m an advocate of living life in peace. Living your best life while living it as your best YOU. And that can’t be done if you can’t be yourself. You can’t live your life worried about what people will say about you. People will always have something to say. Let them talk.

For all the people that understand you, there will always be a small crowd that won’t. Don’t focus on the small crowd, keep your eyes straight ahead. I love when Bishop T.D. Jakes said these words, “Don’t waste your time explaining to a turtle, a giraffe’s vision.” They just won’t understand it because they can’t see it. They can’t see what you see from the level they are on.

As long as you can sleep at night knowing you’d given your all. You know that you did your best. Go to bed and sleep well my friend! I am a believer. I believe in a God that sits high and looks low. I try my best to follow Him. Many days I please Him and many I know I disappoint Him. But each day, I wake up with my mind on Him and doing right that day.

No one is perfect. And just because I’ve gotten to a point of disappointing Him lesser and lesser each day, does NOT give me the right to point a wagging finger at someone else that is still struggling with their right/wrong percentages. The goal is to keep trying. To keep pleasing Him, not man. Listen! Man will disappoint you every chance he or she gets.

You can do your best and there is still a chance people won’t see it that way. To be misunderstood when your efforts are good feels horrible. Trust I know how that feels. But that doesn’t mean you should throw in the towel and give up on life for the impaired vision or uncircumcised ears of a few folks. And I don’t care if those few folks feel like a ton of people to you, keep doing what you know to be right. If God is pleased, you have done well.

I’ve mentioned on several platforms that I was afraid of writing my marriage memoir because of the deep dark secrets I would reveal and that I actually did share. It took a lot for me to decide to follow what God said for me to do and to not worry about what man would say about it. Once I got that foundation solid and knew Whom I was to serve with my walk, the fear and anxiety over what people would think and say about the book went away. That was such a huge mental accomplishment for me, so now it’s easy for me to just let people talk. To just let people go on and say whatever that are going to say about me.

Trust it didn’t happen over night. That mental strength and toughness didn’t just appear. I had been body building with disappointment, rejection, back biting, losing friends and family, and misunderstanding of who Nakia is for years. I had been working out/going to the gym on those things throughout my life. Even now as one of the youngest black women supervisors among a white male dominated environment. To be black and different all by itself brings challenges. So when God gave me this assignment, I just had to remind myself of all the things He’d brought me through over the years.

So now my foundation is stronger than ever before. Does that mean life doesn’t hurt from time to time? No, of course not. Life will always have it’s ups and downs. I will continue to WIN and I’ll lose some as well. People have and will continue to reject me. People have and will continue to call me friend and turn their backs on me. People have and will continue to misjudge me. People have and will continue to talk negatively about me.

For all that is done against me, I’ll continue to remind myself of all the good I’ve done and all the good I try to do and remind myself of all the good I plan to do in this life of mines. I refuse to allow the actions of others to dictate my reaction. I will continue to love on everyone in my path; enemies and all, those that despise me and those that try to use me. My key focus is not what they do but just knowing who they are. It’s a sad day to be stabbed in the back and not know who held the weapon. Therefore, I take pride in just knowing, in order to put the cutlery away when those guests arrive at my doorstep.

I encourage you to do the same. If you are an overall happy person, stay happy. If you are an optimistic person, let the glass remain full in your life. If you work hard, continue to work hard regardless of the lack of work going on around you. When your efforts are overlooked, continue to be who you know you are. If you have a dream, FOLLOW it. When people talk bad about you. Let them talk!

Don’t put who you are and what you are trying to accomplish down because of what people will say. Let them talk. Talking ain’t never stopped no show. A friend once said, “the most boos come from the cheap seats.”

Thanks for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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