You still fighting over dirty underwear on the floor? Or is it the dirty dish next to the sink? Or maybe the hamper is full of clean clothes but those were washed a month ago. Is it the toothpaste being pushed from the top of the tube that is aggravating you? Or the fact that they won’t clean the sink after brushing them.

Is it all the unkept rooms in the house that makes your eyes roll upon arrival? Or is it the grass to your knees which has caused the neighbors to roll their eyes? Is it the lack of attention given to the kids? Or better yet, the lack of attention you get?

Could it be pubic hairs at the bottom of the tub/shower? Or is it the hairs all over the sink? Hair left in the comb? Hell or the fact they don’t comb their hair!? Or don’t bathe before bed!

What is it? What is it that your spouse is doing that is pissing you off? Maybe those things are too trivial. Haha. I’m willing to bet there are several marriages barely holding on due to that trivial stuff too.

If that’s too small, y’all able to save any money over there? Or is one of y’all spending it all as fast as it comes in? I bet I touched a sour spot there.

And maybe spending money isn’t the issue because that joker ain’t working. I get it. This economy is hard on many of us. They ain’t the only ones out of a job that is for sure. But damn it, if you are going to be home, at least you can do is have the house cleaned and dinner cooked. Hell! I said it for you!

I know your pain! If I haven’t experienced it, I know someone who has. So what I want to tell you is this. You are not alone. Please don’t ignorantly think that you’d leave this sorry spouse and find a better one.

Listen and hear me good. If they ain’t doing my first paragraph, they will be doing the second one. If it ain’t the second one, than it’s the third. Or it’s one that is not on this page. This joker is cheating constantly and won’t stop after being confronted. Or they are abusive. Alcoholic. Chronic drug user. Addicted gambler. Listen it could be worse!

So if your problems remained at the top half of this page, give yourself a hand because all you are going through is a marital phase. Those aren’t issues for real. Those are things you two have to learn to work through in order to start operating as a team and need to become a stronger unit.

Note: any of the latter things, please seek professional help. I can’t speak on those but I can encourage you through your petty phase. Yes, I said petty.

It’s petty because you make those dirty underwear on the floor a heart issue. All of a sudden, you’ve connected that to their love for you. You can’t be successful at work and focus because of some dirty underwear being on the floor at home. Really people. Petty! Like I said.

If the damn underwear is bothering you that much, keep a kitchen tongs on your nightstand. Let them see you picking them up one day, hold it far out from your body, head slightly extended back while you walk it to the clothes hamper. Don’t frown your face! Just make it seem like it’s normal course of business. Maybe they will feel stupid after seeing how CALMLY you perform this task. Maybe they are just nasty and won’t. LOL. But you will eventually become immune to it, I guarantee! And a professional underwear tosser! Paaahahahahaaa

I’m laughing cus I know someone is going through this silliness right now. So if this is you, pick your damn drawers up please. I’ll say it for them. If this is your spouse, now is NOT the time to introduce them to my blog! Hahahahha. Yes I’ll love the attention but don’t be petty. Ok

My point is this. Too often we are suffering in our marriages because we have allowed petty stuff like the above to cause other issues for us. We have stopped talking to each other because admit it, it’s hard to smile when I’m mad about your underwear! We withhold sex. These things hinder our affection from one another.

All of a sudden, these small things have turned into mountains in our living rooms and bedrooms. Marriages are ending because these petty things just got out of hand. They are like small rashes on the back of our hand that has now spread all over the body.

Praise the petty! Because if you can conquer the petty things, you can conquer the bigger things. Those things teach us how to work together. We build our team behind those things. We learn how to community issues through them. We learn more about each other with them. Praise the petty!

You see…if you haven’t gotten past those petty things, how will you handle the other bigger issues life has to throw at us? You do know life has a way of doing that, right. I heard Bishop TD Jakes said “baby you haven’t gone through nothing, wait until a child steals a car.” Yes, wait until your issues are with your kids. If you can’t handle the dirty underwear, what will you do when the police knock on the door about your kids?

And what if the unimaginable happens? This year, within 2 months, I have witnessed two families lose a child. One baby was 11 and had been battling leukemia for a couple years. Little Miss Sydney Erica Cunningham was so very sweet and strong (#sweetSydney). And the other baby was just laid to rest last week. Little Miss Katherine Lanae Reed was just 7 years old when she suddenly passed. I’d never attended a funeral of someone so young. She was so beautiful.

You still worried about dirty underwear now?

Please continue to pray for the Cunningham and Reed families. Lord bless them in a mighty special way.

Thank you for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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