Six figures and I bet you I don’t hesitate to ask my man for permission. Picture on a wall full of leaders and I still ask for permission. Most of the time, I’m the youngest leader in the room. That has nothing to do with what goes on in our home. Had my first home before getting married. Obtained Bachelor, Master, and Doctoral degree by age 31 yet permission required. Real estate investor. Public speaker. Started and closed businesses. Professor. None of that matters.

Laugh. Go ahead and get it out. Shake your head because you can’t see yourself asking a man for permission. Listen I’ve learned how to navigate through my marriage with minimal detours. We aren’t perfect by far but I know and understand what the Bible says as it pertains to marriage.

Submission. This simple means discussing things with your husband before going off and doing things without his knowledge or input. Means making decisions with him. What it does NOT mean is bowing down to his feet or kissing his behind. God has more love and respect for you dear. He just prefers His order of things and not ours.

You see. When something is wrong in your home. If someone strays off the beaten path…God checks that man for what isn’t right. He will hold him accountable for your spiritual and physical well being. He charges your man to love you like He loves the church! To protect you and care for you.

Submission is simply teamwork y’all. You see woman of God, you are so darn incredible and now-a-days extremely independent. But those attributes often times are the reason for our marital stumbling blocks. We don’t know how to deviate from our career or mommy roles due to essentially using those when it comes to him. So let me ask you, “how is that working for you?”

Anything with two heads is a monster!

I heard His voice encouragement me to tell our story. But this story involves my husband. Even though God sent the message, I know He operates out of wisdom. I’m not crazy. So I told James what I heard and asked him if it was okay. Initially, he disagreed. What do you think I did next?

I shut the duck up is what I did! Didn’t say another word. Allowed God to handle him. About a week or two later, James actually brought the idea back to me. He agreed! Saying, “if our story can help someone else, you can write it!”

The book is done! Currently with the editor. But wait, once I finished it, His spirit came over me again. My heart began to pound. I knew I had to run the actual book by my husband. Yes, he agreed for me to write it months prior. But you know us women have a steel trap for a mind when it comes to things with our men so I KNOW he wasn’t expecting me to regurgitate up so many of the things I’d written in this book.

He read it and my spirit was right. He was on the verge of scrapping the book. Oh my goodness! All of that writing for nothing. But we discussed his concerns (held a team meeting) and I totally understood that he wasn’t expecting all that I put within the book. He felt he was letting me down but this is what I told him, “It won’t be an issue. If you say no, then that’s that. I will NOT lose my marriage trying to save others.”

And I meant that!

STAY TUNED! My memoir, “I’ll Fight For My Man” COMING SOON! Also a Permissions Part II! I feel there is more to this subject that I need to touch for anyone still reading with the side-eye. This is enough for now…

Thanks for your attention. Remember you are your own competition.

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